Marriage…When Your Spending Plans Don’t Agree

The expression is opposites attract, and this is very much the case when it comes to spending plans in a marriage.  If you are a careful spender than being married to someone who is a spender can be trying and challenging especially in difficult economic times.  Whether your spouse is a person who spends to get a good feeling from it, or they overspend due to carelessness, the results are still the same, leaving you with too much debt and little savings to pay it down with.

If you attempt to solve this problem using the lecture method, then you may just drive your spouse to spend more, thus resulting in more problems.

A more effective strategy to combat this problem is to keep track of household expenses.  Accountability for household expenses may be just enough to show your spouse the areas that need work, without really saying anything.

If this doesn’t work? Then the time has come to get separate bank accounts.  And if your spouse’s spending is causing extreme stress on your household finances, then you may have to consider stronger measures.

Finally, you might consider lightening up a little. Marriage is one of life’s great blessings. If you think the occasional iToy is expensive, wait until you see how much a divorce costs.

Financial Times Are They Worse Than We Think

It seems that although trying to report the facts, the news media is being told to keep a positive spin on the financial world, and focus on the positive as opposed to the negative when it comes to money matters.  Unfortunately, as the end of the year figures become public, there is no where for American’s to hide, we are in some serious trouble.  Unemployment statistics are rising each month, sales in all the major retailers are down, and people who have their money in the stock market are panicking and with good reason.  Yesterday, Barack Obama addressed the country talking about the financial crisis and said that Congress must act quickly to put a plan into effect or things are going to plummet.  I don’t think that Congress knows how to act quickly, and I also think that they are at a loss as to what to do.  I don’t know that the incoming President has all the answers, as a matter of fact, I don’t think that anyone does.  It is like when you overspend for years, and then you lose your job, basically we are up a creek.  All the bailouts in the whole world are not going to stop us from going into a Depression in this country.  You can’t just undo all the mistakes that have been made overnight, and no one should expect that from anyone including the new president.  The one thing that I know is that we need to start tightening the belts on spending all around.  There is no need for spending money like we do in this country, and it is really time for us to look at our “budget” which is far from balanced and stop spending money that we don’t have.  This country does not need small cutbacks, we need to cut back in all areas and start using the excess to knock down some of this debt that we have accumulated.  It won’t happen overnight, but working together with a clear understanding of the hole that we all collectively have created, means we start to put this horrible financial crisis behind us.

It may be a long haul for the American public, but we can all do our part.  Volunteer time, money or whatever resources you have to help others if you are not one of the one’s in need.  You could need help in the future, so keep in mind that what you put out there comes back to you ten fold.  We need to help each other, just like we did following 9/11.  We need to unite and show the world what American’s are made of, and it isn’t money.

Worrying About The Short Term

Financially we are all thinking, what will happen next week or next month.  Things in the economy seem to be declining quickly and we find ourselves helpless to do little more than watch our lives spiral downward with no end in sight, but what about the long term.

I can’t imagine a world without banks and credit cards, but maybe that wouldn’t be so bad.  I guess we could barter, and return to a world where we actually had human relationships and where people had to be decent to each other in order to get the things they need.  What about all the others, the people who are completely unwilling to give up their lives of complete selfishness and greed.  Will they just steal to get what they want? Will they be able to survive this way, or will their greed just eat them up and spit them out? Will we? I don’t really claim to know how all this mess is going to pan out, but I do know that we can’t just continue to bail out companies and pretend like everything is okay.  They keep talking about a recession if they don’t bail out these companies, but isn’t this just a way of prolonging the inevitable and making things worse.  They say that we need to do this now, but what they aren’t saying is what will come of this debt down the road.  In my mind it is kind of the equivalent of floating a check or paying one credit card bill with another credit card.  The debt isn’t going away, it is just being transferred and it will eventually catch up with us and most likely when it does the results will be way worse than they will be if they let this catastrophe happen right now.

Pretending like everything is fine, will not and does not make everything fine.  These problems are not going away anytime soon, either way.  I am not sure what comes next but I am sure that we must be prepared for some major lifestyle changes or we will not survive it, of this I am almost certain.